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movin on
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United Kingdom
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 Posted - 01 November 2008 : 19:12:30
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Well i'm not really sure where to start, so i may ramble (apologies)
For the past few days i have felt so down, i keep shouting at the kids, dont want to talk to other half, keep crying and just being completely horrible.
I went br 13 october, and thought that this would all stop by now and it hasnt.
Has anyone else felt like this because i thought going br would give me a kind of fresh start, and at the moment every little thing is making me cry or be angry. Maybe i was just expecting too much.
The weights are coming off my shoulders very slowly, but making such a big diference !! |
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Reviva UK
Advanced Member
United Kingdom
2452 Posts |
Posted - 01 November 2008 : 19:23:15
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Hi Moneyworries
The academic process of filing the paperwork, the 1st & second telephone call are really just a part of it.
It is quite normal to feel "odd", "Strange" or I call it "Grey". It seems to be a state of limbo where one expects the world to fall in on them but strangely it just carries on as normal.
part of the process with a couple of assisted bankruptcy companies is not just the hand holding or even moral support but also a type of councelling but in a "best friend" way.
The Forum can offer a lot of support before AND AFTER the big day so you need to lean on the forum and the friends you have developed here.
You are quite normal but you need to try to forget the past, draw a line and start to plan for the future.
If you spend too much time reflecting on what if then you won't spend enough time looking forward and planning to enjoy your life.
hope this helps a little
Paul Johns
Assisted Bankruptcy Specialists
Reviva UK
For a Free Impartial Review before taking the leap call me @ Reviva UK
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kazy1
Junior Member
United Kingdom
120 Posts |
Posted - 01 November 2008 : 20:06:39
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Hi moneyworries
We all cope in different ways.I felt numb for days like nothing has happened.
Now its like omg!!! no more debt.
You may also be shouting at the kids as its half-term
Be strong and have faith in yourself your strong and these feelings will go in time and as you know we are always here.
So huge hug going out to you.try and relax and enjoy the rest of the weekend and remember however your feeling we are always here.
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Needafriend
Junior Member
United Kingdom
344 Posts |
Posted - 01 November 2008 : 20:09:36
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Hi MW
I know where your coming from i too went through that, i hated everything about a week to 10 days after.
I hated my OH and i hated my life. I wanted to curl up into a ball and die.
I even posted on here how crap i felt and how useless my life was, but then after the tears and anger that i felt things started to calm down, it was all the worry leading up to the BR, the the interview and the stress of all the debts suddenly i found myself feeling very much alone and out of control, i mean things were out of my control.
I regreted going BR then and wished i had been bacck at uni and had a normal life, but the next day i started to pick up, i had a good moan at my OH and explained how i felt and when i woke the next day and i thought about the lovelly replies i had from the members i realised i do have a life and a debtfree one.
The stress of it all has come to a head now and its almost like a kettle coming to the boil, your letting of steam.
Give yourself a big hug and think that the old life is in the past and now you have a very happy new life starting.
Its ok to scream and shout even cry we have to otherwise we would not be normal.
Take care
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Jo
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For more info on how i have come through bankruptcy and for links to help, you can read my blog here called:
Jo's Links and added info on Bankruptcy!
http://debtfreejo.blogs.bankruptcyhelp.org.uk/
“Im always here to give you that extra support. Hold on tight as the road maybe bumpy but there is a smooth road at the end. Reach out and grab those opportunities when then arise. Be strong and have courage. Most of all do whats best for you and yours, as I have and I dont regret it now one bit.”
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scaredkez
Junior Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 November 2008 : 22:48:09
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hi moneyworries, i too felt exactly the same, it was a kind of limbo, as i didn't really know how i was suppose to feel, some days i would find my self crying for no reason and feeling guilty that i had not been able to repay what i had borrowed, so i kept telling myself i had done everything that was possible before i had come to the decision of going BR, i thought i was the worst mother in the world as i had let it come to this, i had so much positive advice from one particular member of iva site, lily, she kept me going through everything and basically with out saying it told me to pull myself together i wasn't a bad mum, just made a few mistakes and now it was all over and not dwell on the past, it was a new beginning, so i took her advice and got on with it took hold of the new beginning and each day is a step in the new direction of where i want my life to take me along with my family, i know how hard it is you are feeling but i do promise you it does get better and you get back into the swing of being a family again and put the past behind you, hold your head up high and say hey i faced my problem i done something about it i won't be the first and i won't be the last, new beginnings good luck
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movin on
Average Member
United Kingdom
946 Posts |
Posted - 02 November 2008 : 10:46:25
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Thank you all SO MUCH for your advice
It made me cry, but in a good way. It means so much to be able to 'speak' to people who know how i feel and have been there - nubby is ok, but doesnt really know what to say or how i feel, so just says nothing
Thank you again
Jenny
The weights are coming off my shoulders very slowly, but making such a big diference !! |
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Reviva UK
Advanced Member
United Kingdom
2452 Posts |
Posted - 02 November 2008 : 10:49:17
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Hi
that is an interesting name for your other half.
Hubby I am familiar with but Nubby is a new one. Obviously a geographical difference.
Might make you smile!
Paul Johns
Assisted Bankruptcy Specialists
Reviva UK
For a Free Impartial Review before taking the leap call me @ Reviva UK
www.revivauk.com |
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movin on
Average Member
United Kingdom
946 Posts |
Posted - 02 November 2008 : 10:54:12
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It certainly did Paul....Thank you - A fresh start is needed today i think!!
The weights are coming off my shoulders very slowly, but making such a big diference !! |
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Needafriend
Junior Member
United Kingdom
344 Posts |
Posted - 02 November 2008 : 11:23:59
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Hi Jenny
I hope that your feeling better today, the feelings and emotions can take a while to sink in, but be positive and think ahead and you will be fine.
LOL
Jo
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For more info on how i have come through bankruptcy and for links to help, you can read my blog here called:
Jo's Links and added info on Bankruptcy!
http://debtfreejo.blogs.bankruptcyhelp.org.uk/
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tracy_b
Junior Member
United Kingdom
457 Posts |
Posted - 02 November 2008 : 14:58:14
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Hi Jenny,
I've been feeling exactly like you which is why i havent been on here for a while. I went BR on 9th Oct and although i had a couple of days straight after of feeling really tearful, i thought i'd got over it. I got through the OR interview and then for the last week i've felt really C..P. I've been crying and shouting at all and sundry and i was feeling that i couldn't cope with anything and that i was a complete failure. But the last day or so ,i have now come out of this and feel so much more positive and in control. I have definately turned the corner and have now become excited about the prospect of no debt evr again, and the fact that what i buy really does belong to me cause i have paid for it!
There really is light at the end of the tunnel and BR is no an easy solution. I am sure that there will be up and downs but for the mo i can really say for the first time in years that i am truly happy. poor but happy!!!!
Take care
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