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Junior Member

117 Posts

Posted - 21 February 2009 :  17:45:36  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
BR day was surreal , but its when the guilt and shame come back after. And then the comments.
The grey seems to get very dark before it gets lighter
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Average Member

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Posted - 21 February 2009 :  18:52:52  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
There is a certain guilt and shame to it.

The important thing is to learn from it. A second bankruptcy would be more shameful than the first time.

It is an up and down process.

It will look better in time and you can philosophise that some people have much wqorse to deal with. Like poor Jade.
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United Kingdom
141 Posts

Posted - 21 February 2009 :  21:34:55  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
oh my god this friday coming for me, please tell me something positive, its took a long time building up to this. you are right Paul, in the supermarket on friday i kind of said to my self this time next week i'll be BR i wonder if anyone will notice! (probably not) but i felt like telling the checkout operator, hes so canny. i havent even told my mam.
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Posted - 21 February 2009 :  21:36:36  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
ps i hope my OH doesn't read this ive promised it wont be bad.
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Junior Member

117 Posts

Posted - 21 February 2009 :  23:20:42  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
When I came out of court last week I kept looking to see if people were staring. I felt different. Did anyone notice? NO! Daft really the only reason they would look at me was because of the way I was looking round at them.
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Starting Member

United Kingdom
6 Posts

Posted - 22 February 2009 :  08:46:58  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
For all your ex-husbands apparent fiscal aptitude, he seems the poor person. With an attitude like that he is the disgrace. New start.
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xmas baby
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Posted - 27 February 2009 :  15:04:15  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Reading many of the stories makes me realise how lucky I have been to have understanding family and friends. They have all been supportive and non judgmental and my mother has been a tower of strength and even encouraged me to go bankrupt when I was dithering about what to do. I'm not saying that everyone would accept it who I know. I don't plan on telling my sister as I know I would get a real ear bashing and she wouldn't be too happy, but at the end of the day, it is me who is going to have to live with the consequences and not her, so why should she be bothered about it. I do feel terrible though at having to tell my mother as she has been through so much in the past year, as my dad passed away. The thing is I tell my mum everything and she has always been a supportive mum and I'm so very lucky to have her.

Easier said than done, I know, but those people who so liberally accuse those of us who are bankrupt and call us names are the ones who should hold their heads in shame. Have they never heard of human compassion?

Keep strong folks!

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Posted - 27 February 2009 :  16:28:02  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
My family too is very supportive and my Mum, who went through all this with me 10 years ago, has been a star.
I too lost my Dad 16th Months ago and did not want to burden my Mum but she would have been more upset if I had not told her.
Just try to keep smiling and try to remember you have taken the hardest step.

G x

There is light at the end of the tunnel, I can actually see it !!!!
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