The letters come here as when we separated the address on the accounts was changed to where I live now not to where he lives. Have looked into csa but being the idiot that I am thought we could work out a way to do things without having them involved. He had a statutory demand letter delivered to the house by HRMC. I suppose trying to find out whether they will make him bankrupt so that I can also get a clean slate form him and concentrate on me and children
I think you need to get in touch with CSA as he should be paying for his kids.
Personally speaking I would contact HMRC and tell them that he doesn't live there anymore. It is up to you if you give them his new address.
As you say, you need to concentrate on you and your kids and not him.
The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. – Ulysses S. Grant
Get CSA involved - he is shirking his responsibilities for his kids and he shouldn't be doing that.
As for the debts - it will all come down to him and he needs to sort it out.
The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. – Ulysses S. Grant
Hi sorry to be a pain. I made a payment today to the one account that is in Jasons name and my address as i had missed a payment on it but as Vicki said might be an idea to keep with the payments until definately know that he is going bankrupt. The thing that I am worrying about now is because one payment was missed the company has been phoning my mobile and I answered it today and just said that he wasn't here and was away. Does it make a difference that I answered a call to them with regards to whether I can get into trouble or is it still the same that he is responsible for the debts as are in his name. Hope this makes sense.
It should not make a difference at all. The debts are in his name, not yours and you will not get into any trouble.
The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. – Ulysses S. Grant
You simply tell them he does not live there any more and if possible provide a forwarding address. If they continue it's harassment and you can take action against them.
As for the CSA good luck with that. I have 2 daughters that my wife took with her when she left me in 2010. I have not seen them since. I have tried (yes ME) to get the CSA to set up a payment but 3 years on I still struggle to get them to action anything. And that's the NRP trying to give the mother money.
My stepson pays for his eldest daughter who lives with her mother and had no problems with setting up payments and getting them altered.
Perhaps it is like everything else - some areas are better than others.
Just keep strong and remember this is HIS problem - not yours.
Keep us informed as to how you are getting on.
The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. – Ulysses S. Grant